When big feelings take over
Shouting, tears, a meltdown over a lost game. The Big Feelings Toolkit helps your child name what they feel, notice it in their body and choose a safe next step, and gives you calm words to use in the moment.
If you end the day worn out and wondering what you’re doing wrong: you’re not. Big feelings are a skill children are still learning, and every child deserves the chance to practise it.
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How it works
- Buy and downloadPay with PayPal or a card. The PDF is ready straight away.
- Print what you needAny home printer and A4 paper. Start with the feelings cards.
- Practise 5–10 minutes while calmThen use the same cards and words when a big feeling arrives.
See inside
Three of the pages, exactly as you’ll print them. Tap a page to see it full size.
What’s inside
- A grown-up guide: what to do before, during and after
- 16 feelings cards to cut out
- Where do I feel it? body map
- My feelings thermometer
- 11 illustrated calm-down choice cards
- My calm plan
- 12 what-would-you-feel scenario cards
- A week of feelings check-ins
- What to say in big moments
- A certificate for practising
How it helps
- Practise when everyone is calm. Children can’t learn to calm down in the middle of a meltdown. Short activities build the skill in quiet moments, five to ten minutes at a time.
- Words for big feelings. Sixteen feelings, from angry and worried to jealous and proud, so “I’m cross” becomes something you can both talk about.
- A plan your child chooses. They pick their own favourite calm-down ideas and put them on a plan for the fridge.
- Words for you, too. What to say when they shout, hit or say “I hate you”, and how to put things right afterwards.
What changes with practice
If nothing changes
The same small things keep setting off the same big reactions. Evenings end in tears, and everyone goes to bed worn out.
A few weeks from now
Your child says “I’m cross” instead of shouting, picks a card from their calm plan, and you already know what to say.
Every child is different, and it takes practice. The toolkit gives you both a simple place to start.
Get the toolkit for £5.99 Instant PDF download
Works well with these books
Read one of these together, then use the toolkit to practise. Tap a book for its questions and activities.
Made by a mum and former teacher
We built Growing Wise because we wanted a calmer way for children to practise big feelings before the real moment arrives. Every page is short and playful, and works alongside picture books children already love.
Questions
How do I get it?
Pay with PayPal (or a card through PayPal). You’ll come straight back to a page with your download button, and PayPal emails you a receipt. The download link works for 7 days, so save the PDF when you get it.
What do I need to print it?
Any home printer and A4 paper. Printing the cards on thin card makes them last longer.
Can I print it more than once?
Yes. Print as many copies as you need for your own family or one classroom. Please don’t share the file.
What age is it for?
Ages 4 to 8. Younger children can use the feelings cards and calm-down cards with a grown-up reading them out.
What if the download doesn’t work?
Email growingwise2026@gmail.com with your PayPal receipt and we’ll send the PDF.
Ready for calmer evenings?
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Growing Wise is an educational resource for parents and children. It is not medical, psychological or therapeutic advice. If you’re worried about your child’s feelings or behaviour, talk to your GP or health visitor.